How Well Do You Know Me? 120 Questions for Couples (+ Scoring)

By The Unsaid team · 120 questions · 9 min read

A "how well do you know me" quiz is a set of questions about your favorites, habits, history and hopes. One partner answers about themselves in secret, the other guesses, and you count the matches. Below are the rules, a scoring guide and 120 how well do you know me questions for couples, starting with a 10-question round you can play right now.

How to play the "how well do you know me" quiz

You need two people, something to write on and about twenty minutes. The whole game fits on a couch, at a restaurant table or in the car.

Pick 25 questions. Mix a few from each group below: favorites, habits, history, us and the future.
Answer about yourself, in secret. Player one writes down their own answer to each question. No peeking.
Your partner guesses. Player two writes what they think player one said.
Reveal one at a time. Read both answers out loud. A match, or close enough that you both agree, is one point.
Swap and play again. Now player two answers about themselves and player one guesses. Compare scores, or add them up as a team.
Ask why. The best part is not the score. When a guess is wrong, ask what the real answer says about you.

Score out of 25 and find your band below. Every band is a good result: wrong guesses are just new things to learn.

Score	Band	What it means
0-10	Still discovering	Plenty left to learn, which is the fun part. Play again in a month and watch the number climb.
11-17	Solid team	You know the big things. The misses are small details worth asking about.
18-22	Close readers	You pay real attention. Pick harder questions next time.
23-25	Mind readers	Either you have been together forever or you cheated. Either way, impressive.

Try 10 how well do you know me questions now

A quick round to warm up. Answer these about yourself, then hand them over. Most couples miss at least two.

What is my go-to order at a coffee shop?
What would I save first if the house was on fire?
What is my biggest pet peeve?
Which song would I pick for a road trip singalong?
What was my first job?
Where was our first kiss?
What would I do with a surprise day off?
Which of my friends have I known the longest?
What food could I never give up?
Where do I want to travel next?

How well do you know me questions about favorites

The easiest group, and the one where couples get the most confident and the most wrong.

What is my favorite color?
What is my favorite movie of all time?
Which band or artist have I listened to the most this year?
What is my favorite dessert?
Which holiday do I love most?
What is my favorite kind of weather?
Which TV show have I rewatched the most?
What is my favorite breakfast?
Which book has stuck with me the longest?
What is my favorite pizza topping?
What is my favorite room in our home?
Which sport do I most enjoy watching?
What is my favorite candy?
Which city is my favorite place I have visited?
What is my favorite animal?
Which app do I spend the most time on?
What is my favorite way to exercise?
What is my favorite drink on a night out?
Which fictional character do I relate to most?
What is my favorite board game or card game?
Which smell instantly makes me happy?
What is my favorite day of the week?
What is my favorite thing to cook?
Which emoji do I use the most?
What is my favorite piece of clothing right now?

How well do you know me questions about habits

Habits are where attention shows. If they live with you, these should be easy. If not, they are a great test.

What is the first thing I do when I wake up?
Am I a morning person or a night owl?
How do I take my tea or coffee?
What do I always forget when we leave the house?
Which side of the bed do I prefer?
What do I do when I am stressed?
How many alarms do I set in the morning?
What snack do I reach for late at night?
Do I read the end of a book first?
What do I do while waiting in line?
How do I usually celebrate good news?
What do I always order at our usual takeout place?
Am I early, on time or late for most things?
What do I do to calm down after an argument?
Which chore do I always put off?
Do I fold or roll my clothes?
What do I say when I answer the phone?
How do I usually spend the first hour after work?
What do I do when I cannot sleep?
What is the last thing I do before bed?
Which phrase do I say way too often?
How do I eat a slice of pizza?
What music do I play while cleaning?
Do I make my bed every morning?
What do I do on my phone when I am bored?

How well do you know me questions about my history

The years before you met. These reward the partner who listened to the long stories.

Where was I born?
What was the name of my first pet?
Who was my best friend in elementary school?
What did I want to be when I grew up?
What was my favorite subject in school?
Who was my first celebrity crush?
What was my first car, or how did I get around?
Where did I go on my favorite childhood vacation?
What was my most-played video game or toy as a kid?
Which teacher did I like the most?
What instrument did I try to learn?
How old was I when I had my first kiss?
What was the worst job I ever had?
Which family member am I closest to?
What did I get in trouble for as a teenager?
Where did I live before I met you?
What was my nickname growing up?
Which concert was the first one I went to?
What is the bravest thing I did before we met?
What did my childhood bedroom look like?
Which sport or club was I part of in school?
What is my earliest memory?
Which trip changed me the most?
What was my hairstyle in high school?
What is a family tradition I grew up with?

How well do you know me questions about us

Your shared story. Expect a few debates about who remembers it right. For more on your history together, try our couples quiz, which has a whole memory lane round.

Where did we meet?
What did I think of you the first time we met?
What did I wear on our first date?
When did I first say "I love you"?
What is my favorite memory of us?
Which of our dates do I talk about most?
What is the nicest thing you have ever done for me, in my opinion?
What song do I think of as our song?
What do I love most about you?
Which of our trips is my favorite?
What is my favorite photo of us?
What was the first gift I gave you?
What nickname do I secretly like being called?
How do I most like to be comforted?
What makes me feel most loved by you?
What is one thing you do that always makes me laugh?
What was our first big adventure together?
What is my favorite way to spend a night in with you?
What did I tell my friends about you after our first date?
What is our funniest inside joke, according to me?

How well do you know me questions about the future

Dreams and plans. Wrong guesses here are worth a real conversation, in the best way.

Where would I live if I could live anywhere?
What is the top thing on my bucket list?
What would my dream job be?
How would I spend a lottery win?
What skill do I want to learn next?
What kind of home do I dream about?
Which country do I most want to visit someday?
What would I name a future pet?
What does my ideal retirement look like?
What is one goal I want to hit this year?
How would I spend a whole year off?
What adventure do I want us to have together?
What would my dream wedding or anniversary party look like?
What do I want to be doing at 70?
What tradition do I want us to start?

Why "how well do you know me" quizzes bring couples closer

The Gottman Institute calls the knowledge you hold about your partner a "love map": the part of your mind where you store the personally important details of their life. In its words, "Without such a love map, you can't know your partner" (The Gottman Institute). Building love maps is the first level of its Sound Relationship House model, and the Institute says knowing the details of your partner's life creates a strong foundation for friendship and intimacy.

Love maps go out of date. Favorite songs change, worries change, dreams change. A guessing game is a playful way to check yours, because every wrong answer points to something you can ask about. The questions also echo a classic closeness study: pairs who took turns answering more and more personal questions felt closer after 45 minutes (Aron et al., 1997).

Unsaid builds this into a daily habit with its Guess me format. You answer a question about yourself, send it to your partner by text, and they guess your answer from the link without downloading anything. The reveal shows whether they got it right. If you want open-ended questions instead of guessing, try our lists of questions for couples or 21 questions for couples.

Frequently asked questions

How do you play how well do you know me with your partner?

Pick 20 to 25 questions. One person writes their own answers in secret, the other writes their guesses. Reveal the answers one at a time and give a point for each match. Then swap roles. Talk about the misses, since those are where you learn the most about each other.

What is a good score on a how well do you know me quiz?

Out of 25, anything over 17 means you pay close attention, and 23 or more is mind-reader territory. But a low score is not a bad sign. Many questions cover small details that change over time. Treat misses as conversation starters and play again in a month.

What are some hard how well do you know me questions?

The hardest are about inner life rather than facts: "What do I do when I cannot sleep?", "What is the bravest thing I did before we met?" or "What makes me feel most loved by you?" Questions about the future are also tricky, because plans and dreams shift.

Can you play how well do you know me over text?

Yes. Send one question at a time, ask your partner to guess, then reply with your real answer. To stop either of you changing an answer after seeing the other, write yours down first. Unsaid handles this for you by keeping both answers hidden until you have each replied.

How well do you know me questions for friends vs couples: what is the difference?

Couples versions include questions about your shared story, like where you met or what song feels like yours, and about plans for the future together. Friends versions stick to favorites, habits and history. The favorites and history sections above work for friends too.

How many how well do you know me questions should we play at once?

Twenty to twenty-five is the sweet spot for one sitting, about twenty minutes. More than that and the game drags. If you want to keep going, play a fresh round on another night, or answer one question a day so it becomes a small ritual.

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